Customize how you meditate or pray for clarity and resolution.

Song on repeat. Focus your thoughts on the goal of resolution and clarity. Meaning, something may feel unsolved and you may need guidance. But how? That same question I’ve asked myself.

Meditation is to clear the mind and prayer is to clear the spirit. Both come from feeling unsettled and a need to find peace or figure out how to help yourself. Both need focus and patience.

I use to wonder why I didn’t hear that voice of God that people say they hear. I would be like- I am meditating, praying and thanking God for what has done. Recently, I finally put some thought into my concern and realized I wasn’t really spending quality time giving thanks or waiting for an answer. I was only focused for a few minutes and with this quick approach to meditation I couldn’t receive the answers I was looking for.

Then I had an aha moment. I realized, I don’t have to follow specific rules to seek help from a higher power. Who’s to say I’m not meditating, praying or giving thanks because I don’t set a timer, sit on a pillow or focus my breathing? It dawned on me (no pun intended) that my non-traditional method to clarity came naturally to me and it works.

So I release every thought that should be tossed out and I focus on peace and love.

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To set my atmosphere for a customized mediation method I use music, unplanned activities, my voice and patience. Scrolling through my Spotify playlist, I land on a special song with an amazing message that lights a fire inside me. Using my voice I ask for guidance, clarity and help with a specific problem. Activities like cleaning, drawing, dancing, crying and lighting candles keeps me relaxed and still in the moment.

As I show gratefulness to my creator, I really feel the song which begins to send waves of joy from my head to my toe, while allowing myself to release the pain, anxiety and sorrow. Patiently I wait for the answers I need; I let lyrics fill my head, my words circle the atmosphere and the feeling of peace move through my body and settle into my soul. The result is liberating and saves me from my destructive subconscious. We all know, we can be our own worst silent enemy.

Only today, at age 48, am I paying enough attention to myself to realize that I have always received answers to my problems or knew what to do next. I also realized that voice of God can respond in more than one way. Some hear His vocal response, while others feel him pulling their heart in a certain direction. Most times at completion of my meditation, I feel a wave of joy that bring me to tears; then I know I have received my answer.

Custom meditation has proven time and time again through my life that there is a guiding spirit that will show you how to move forward. For instance last month; I was dancing, cleaning, attempting to sing at the same tempo to “Aretha Franklin’s, You’re all I need to get by” and asking for guidance and clarity. About an hour later with tears and visions, I finally understood what I needed to do and how to move forward.

Believe in that “feeling” in your gut. When you know something is right for you, understand that there is an internal North Star that will guide you to your destiny. I took the long way to figure all this out. Hopefully, I save you some time.

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What is your meditation method? How do you seek the answers you need from a higher being? Talk to me.

Your Positive Vibe Guide,

Pretty Til Dawn

Clean Corporate Makeup Look. Step by Step Written Instructions for the Executive On the Go

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Pretty Inspiring: Speak your truth and don’t let anyone or anything steal your voice.  As a matter of fact, speak louder and drown out all negativity and remove all stressor triggers.  For this last day of the year, thank God for what you have today and for what he is going to make happen, mediate on positive change 2019, visualize great outcomes, vow to take a breath before spewing words through anger and remove anyone from your life that is not on your team.

My Speak Your Truth Louder t-shirt made me enthusiastic about this post.  I purchased it at a conference I attended earlier this year called, ADCOLOR; an organization supporting people of color in advertising. Talk about inspirational, hearing the reality and truths of so many amazing people of color inspired me even more to put out content that I love. Maybe, just maybe it will help or touch someone.  More about me in another post to come soon.

If you’d like to try this makeup look to stay #PrettyTilDawn, keep reading.

Pretty Makeup: How to Step by Step 

Brushes used include Bdellium, Fenty, KKW and Beauty Blender.

Step 1: Prep freshly washed skin by applying Farsalicare Unicorn Essence with fingertips.

Step 2: Apply Fenty Beauty #profiltrprimer with fingertips.

Step 3: Apply Fenty Beauty #profilterfoundation With @beautyblender #310.

Step 4: Apply KKW Beauty #liquidconcealers #10 and blend with flat tip of double sided Brush II.

Step 5: Apply KKW Beauty #bakingpowder #3 and bake while applying shadow.

Step 6: Prime eyelid Fenty Beauty Amplifying Eye Primer.

Step 7: Using Fenty Brush lightly apply Killawatt freestyle highlighter palette Heartburn heavier on outside crease.

Step 8: Dab Fenty Killawatt freestyle highlighter palette Chillz heavy in center of eyelid and lightly around the rest of the lids.

Step 9: Swipe off KKW Baking Powder w/ other end of Brush II.  The concealer brush two, happens to be 40% off right now.

Step 10: Apply stripe of KKW liquid concealer #14 to high cheekbone, very close, underneath where blush is applied and along your chin-bones.

Step 11: Blend downward at each contour w/ Beauty Blender sponge.

Step 12: Dust Laura Mercier translucent setting powder over your entire #PrettyFace.

Step 13: Apply 3 layers of Milk Makeup Kush Mascara.

Step 14: Circularly apply Sephora Micro Smooth powder #40.

Step 15: Smooth on a light coat of Coconut oil to lips for smooth natural smoochers. Also, remember the coconut oil is an excellent waterproof makeup remover.

And finally, so you can stay #PrettyTilDawn all day with this working woman natural makeup final step follow the final step. 

Step 16: Mist with one of the best finishing sprays by Skindinavia Makeup. 

Hope you try these steps for a clean makeup look, especially if you have a 9-5 and let me know how it works out or if you have any questions.

Coming next is the Pretty Til Dawn You Tube LifeStyle Channel. My goal is to inspire you with positive affirmations, makeup tutorials, chat sessions, taking care of your body, relationships, various styles, executive fashion, maturing challenges  women face and love.

Together we will grow prettier on the inside and the outside!

Dawn aka Carmel Barbie

Ageism- Be Armed and Ready to combat biases.

After participating on the #HAATBP panel where a few of us were able to express the challenge of Ageism and how to deal, I wanted to share a piece of what I’ve dealt with.  Ageism is a real bias and it’s popping up in conversation everywhere. My experience with this type of prejudice is different than the most popular discussions, which is against either the older or the younger.

My social isolation of ageism addresses looking younger than my actual age.  The government set a law against discrimination of persons age 40 and above.  What happens if you are above 40 and look younger? Of the various Many may refer to looking younger, perceived younger as a positive bias. Which makes them say intelligent things like; “you still get carded – that’s a good thing or black don’t crack.”

While implicit or negative ageism bias can be considered unintended, consider those recipients hearing the comments as insulting and hurtful. Most of the time, the assumption are that I could not be experienced enough to drive success for a major corporation or strong enough to lead teams, let alone those dominated by white males.

I have a coping mechanism for this type of inequality and it’s the power of storytelling. I personally can’t think of a single situation where a story isn’t used to combat bias.  This is especially helpful when on a job interview or in engaging in a chat with high-powered people. I have customized a “personal brand” elevator pitch and I deliver it early in conversations to level set and break the bias thoughts running through people’s heads while they are supposed to be listening. I’ve found that sharing where you work and how many years is simply not enough information to forge past unintentional judgements.

“My name is Dawn Fitch-Mitchell”- most will assume I have taken on a hyphen in my name for a reason.  “I have two creative adult children, both graduated from SCAD University and now have careers to support themselves.”  Responses include: “Gasp”- “WTF!”, “Shut Up!”, “No Way!” or the polite response, “You must be proud and look so young”.

Now I want you to imagine this follow up question to me, ” So, you were a teenage mom?!?”

With confusion I stare back…

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don’t let the young face fool you.

If I must build my credibility further, I go on to say, “I owned a modeling agency, I’ve managed teams, I trained as a cosmetologist, model agent, acting coach, managed vendor systems for US and Global in large companies like BMS and AIG, I was and am a CEO, I am an advisor, implemented diversity programs at large agencies, I am an unconscious bias trainer and peer pressure counselor for teens.” This is not bragging, but these are a bunch of responses loaded into my “combat bias bag of tricks”.

What people can’t know just by looking at me is that my career path was layered with multiple tiers of learning, tears and bias interactions, successes, mentors, failures, mentoring and more.  Dealing with situations, people, circumstances, legal and beyond is part of my adult experience makeup, which can make me just the person to fit the position of your search.

I said all this to say, don’t be put off by the non-believers, haters, bias norms, the questioners and those who judge you based on what they see versus what the know.  Instead, arch your back, put your chin up, guard your loins with the fruits of the spirit (Galatians 5:22-23, love, joy, peace, long-suffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness and temperance) and state your truth, all with a smile.

Thanks for listening.

Dawn Fitch-Mitchell

AKA Pretty Til Dawn, AKA Carmel Barbie

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