Don’t let your past drive experience bias in your life. A memory can be detrimental your relationships, both personal and business. This cognitive bias keeps true happiness at bay and may people have no idea they are impeding their ability to be a stronger leader, a better lover and an amazing friend.
Think back to a time where you were in a disagreement with a colleague or lover. If you dig down deep beyond the surface of your reason for not dating someone that your friends keep asking, “what’s wrong with them, cause if you don’t want that catch, I’ll take ‘em?”. How about in business, not hiring an almost great candidate because the pedigree of education from the state college, doesn’t quite fit in to your clique of elites or you associate mannerisms to an ex because they lived in the same neighborhood- there for this candidate will be so annoying.
This fundamental error of judging and using people’s behavior or personality as the driver for your decisions is downright bias. It’s unconscious but bias all the same.
So next time you want to reject someone because they don’t “act” like you expect, or they don’t “come from” your class, do yourself a favor, just “PAUSE”. Think about the amazing experience you could have by asking questions. Think of every opportunity when connecting with someone new as an opportunity to learn, expand your cultural knowledge and reduce your Experience Bias. One small action will eventually become a way of life-a more open, engaging and thoughtful moment of time.